For many reasons that at a young age were outside of my control I was a caregiver since I was a child. It was only the way circumstances of life were delivered to me. Nearly everybody and everything I had to take care of. I had to take the weight of things, and I’ve been taught to never talk to anybody about anything. It’s been tedious.
It’s always been everything I knew, I put myself last. I did not learn about self-care until I was 50 when I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. It has changed my life – a best way of taking physical and emotional care of my health. However, I have to remember to find time for myself to this day.
The first lesson I learned was to establish limitations. Without them, it has been difficult for me to distinguish between my own and others’ personal values. Sometimes to protect myself, I must say “no.” This may mean I lose my sense of myself when I am in relationships and, at worst, I get so intimately involved with another person that I no longer know who I am.
In particular, planning “Me Time” and setting emotional and personal boundaries has greatly helped me. It gives me time to breathe and take a break from my duties. I am on a schedule where I plan my appointments, important events, etc. I prioritize planning things that I like and emphasize in pink.
Self care to me can be like a bubble bath, or my nails can be finished. These are the most important small things in life. My whole situation can change even when my perspective is changed.
What I have done up to now is to walk in nature, to photograph, to color, to cook good food and music. I constantly add what doesn’t work to my list and remove it.
The most important aspects of selfcare are healthy eating, exercise, having someone to talk to, having a sleep, mediating, journaling, thanksgiving, praying, sleeping enough, eliminating negative individuals in my life. I attempt to list all my physical and emotional needs in a full range of things.
I know that it was very difficult, but it was essential to my peace, to remove negative people out of my lives. Sometimes it is difficult to prevent toxic people and I try not to get into their crises and set limits. I don’t expect anybody to change, I don’t expect anybody. Expectations are deceitful.
Healthy relationships I try to surround myself.
Make me smile and feel peaceful more.
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